Thursday, August 11, 2011

Warpaint

I just read this post.

Over the past weeks I have had several conversations about body hair and facial hair and eyebrow plucking and doing ones eyes only vs putting on foundation before stepping out of the house.

Without in any way taking a feminist standpoint (this once) I would like to state that
1. I don't wax. I cream or shave a couple of times a year, if that, and only attend to my underarms if the attire calls for it.
2. I've never plucked my eyebrows or tweezed or bleached any portion of my face.
3. I've never had a facial in my life, not even for my wedding.

Thanks to my theatre stints I am fairly adept at light makeup; what I consider heavy makeup for weddings would be light to some but I am young and do not need more yet.

Many of my friends are convinced that they cannot be seen unless waxed, tweezed, dyed and bleached, hair set and eyes outlined. They have beautiful hair, soft hands and feet and clear complexions that they go to great lengths to maintain. At the very least they have somebody do nice things to their hair, faces and nails once a month or so.

Which begs the question, why am I such a slob and how do they put up with it?

As loving readers I consider it your duty to motivate me. Go on. Tell me I should wear more makeup and cleanse-tone-moisturise nightly. That I should actually use the sunscreen instead of throwing the full bottles away every other year. Go on, convince me.

14 comments:

MinCat said...

hell no! if you are 30, why should you look 17? ive become SO lazy i just about manage to shave me armpits if im wearing sleeveless. just about. i just dont see the point of slapping on an inch of paint, or ripping hair out of your body--this is my face! i like it! okay i touch it up once in a while, but jeez i cant take the way people obsessively poke and prode and rip and paint themselves!

R's Mom said...

But why do you want to..if you can be on stage and look pretty even without heavy make up..why shouldnt you be lazy :)

But why do you want to..if you can be on stage and look pretty even without heavy make up..why shouldnt you be lazy :)

Aneela Z said...

changed FB profile pic in honour of your post.Wild eyebrows and all.

Lavs said...

"As loving readers I consider it your duty to motivate me. Go on. Tell me I should wear more makeup and cleanse-tone-moisturise nightly. That I should actually use the sunscreen instead of throwing the full bottles away every other year. Go on, convince me."

Here I was thinking i was a slob for not doing anything. thank god!
+every year i throw out not just sunscreen but also eyeliners, nail polish and other assorted items. don't ask me why bought it in the first place:)

Unmana said...

We need a forum: "Women who don't wax" or something. When my BFF started too, that was the last straw. I need more support from people like you to retain my slobby hairiness, dammit!

Just Like That said...

Louuuuuu you for throwing out all those things. I've been feeling guilty over it for so long, ( not using doesn't keep me from not buying- with the best of intentions)its a relief to know there are others like me. :-D

Dea-chan said...

OK sunscreen you probably should (I'm guilty of that as well). I personally only put on makeup (read, foundation, eyeliner and mascara if I'm feeling fancy) whenever I want to feel sexy and beautiful. I know that I'm attractive on my own, but -I- feel sexier and prettier in makeup, since I apply makeup to enhance my features.

I also think I look more feminine and cute when I pluck my eyebrows, but I don't do it regularly enough 'cause I don't care. I only shave when I'm wearing a bathing suit in front of family since they actually care about that, and I don't need those conversations again and again (I've already lost count).

Luckily, I'm in a hippy part of the city where in addition to having friends who don't care, but most of the outside world won't notice. Besides, most women do those kind of rituals for themselves, even though they'll inform you that it's for men or society. My guy's point: you're less hairy then I, so why should I care? A friend received a similar response when asking her (now) husband if he was ok with her not shaving; he said so long as you don't mind ME not shaving.

That being said, there are some professional environments where it is inappropriate to be showcasing such blazing anti-prettiness. I wouldn't attempt to be a lawyer brandishing unshaven legs in a skirt suit -- I would wear pants every single day.

Anonymous said...

Hmm..I dont wax/shave too often. Thankfully I dont need to :) And makeup as such means an eyeliner and gloss. But here is the thing - I like the whole ritual..as Dea-chan says above, it makes me feel happy, pretty and beautiful.
And sunscreen is a MUST Sue. You have this awesome, dewy skin now. You dont want it crumpling like parchment by the time you are 50, right? Our parents and grandies before them had it relatively easier. The sun was not that harsh and the pollution not enough to choke on..now with the studies on skin cancer, SPF loaded moisturizers have become essential. Go on. Keep that skin glowing..protect it..lather up.

-Nutty

Sachinky said...

I *HAVE* to tweeze my eye-brows, I am an unibrow-tard.

I do shave once in a while, mostly in a summer, just 'cause I like have smooth and soft limbs.

My only real make-up staple is black eye-liner. I do keep an expensive gloss in my purse for emergencies. I should start wearing sunscreen though. All those skin cancer studies scare me.

Anonymous said...

why should you? If you are happy with the way you look and you don't see any obviously alarmed bystanders when you venture out in public :) the more power to you!

M

Spin said...

I epilate regularly and wear eyeliner all the time. Though I once tried to grow my moustache to see if I would look exaactly like my father. It makes me happy. If not doing that stuff makes you happy, then why should anybody try to convince you?

Sue said...

MinCat -- There must be a fine line between obsessive care and just care for one's skin? So I tell myself!

R's Mom -- I didn't need heavy makeup because our current stage space is pretty intimate but on a proscenium I'd need much more. It's daily skincare I'm referring to in this post, though.

Aneela -- You're such a drama queen!

Lavs -- I think we buy the stuff because they are so prettily packaged. :)

Unmana -- And here I was planning to cream my arms for the wedding next weekend! Don't feel betrayed, I want to get some mehendi done.

JLT -- Too many of us, from the sound of it!

Dea-Chan -- If a male lawyer can get by with, say, a stained suit then why not a female one with a modest skirt and some visible leg hair?

Sachinky -- Everybody seems to agree on the suncreen. I hate the stuff. :(

M -- Ah, but I do see alarmed bystanders! Hence the thought that perhaps it's time I took some trouble.

Spin -- Hey, I wanted to grow a moustache so I could shave it! I do have one single thick hair on my upper lip that I look at quite affectionately before I snip it off. :)

Anonymous said...

the only thing you may want to reconsider is throwing away the sunscreen unused. You're young now and it doesnt matter. It may well matter when you're no longer young and may miss the skin you used to have. Its possible ofcourse that you may not. But you don't know that yet. So why leave room for regrets. Ergo, use that sun screen. Forget everything else.


---DK

Sue said...

DK -- Better yet, refuse to go out into the sun. :)