Thursday, August 04, 2011

So tell me something...

In your opinion is it better to have done what you were told not to do and then got punished for doing it or never having done it?

This is a dilemma that I've never been able to satisfactorily resolve.

If I don't do it then I always feel bad that I didn't (it's cowardly, also I wanted to know what it would have been like.)

But if I do it -- or say somebody close to me does something very wrong for them -- then I get exasperated at the lack of sense in having done something so clearly wrong.

Gah. I will wrestle with this one all my life.


Thinking Cramps said...

Sue - I'd see it as my own conscience - if I've thought through and accepted the implications, and only someone's opinion/instructions are stopping me, I may go ahead. But if there is any reason to not do it, other than that person's wish, I would pause to think some more.

Itchingtowrite said...

depends on your conviction.
if everyone else had their way i wudn't have married the husband!!

Rimi said...

The first most of the time, Sunny, unless it involves satisfying curiosities like, "So why SHOULDN'T I give a dog fried food?" (I was sorely tempted by that once while I was still short of a tenth birthday, and decided not to risk finding out).

So, in short, as long as I'm not doing anything to *directly* harm someone, I'd do it, satisfy my curiosity, and then face the music like a woman.

Plus, if it turns out the fences and barriers were unnecessary, you have righteous gloating on your side, like Columbus probably did ("Won't find anything on the other side, eh? Waste of money, eh?) =)

Gayatri said...

- If it would cause irreversible damage to anybody then I wouldn't do it:)
- If it would cause reversible damage I would weigh the of doing it:regret of not:damages ;b..then decide :D
- If its just a matter of me having my dose of 'experience' then I go ahead...and prepare my self for those "I-told-you-so"s :b
- Good Luck with whatever that's troubling ur mind and heart :)

Dea-chan said...

It depends what it is! Are we talking "don't stick beans in your ears" level or "don't have sex before marriage" level of shouldn'ts? The first is just dumb, but the second level is merely a guideline until the person in question is capable of making a decision for themselves.

Also, a lot of the shouldn'ts are private, and family wouldn't know that you did it anyway!

Sue said...

Ana -- Where is the dividing line between another person's opinion and a valid reason not to? Mostly opinions are formed on reasons that are valid from other perspectives, if you see what I mean?

Itchy -- Good point!

Rimi -- That's what I used to think: do it and take the punishment. But watching, say, Rahul or a close friend follow the same policy is so frustrating!

Gayatri -- That's true, I too weight the potential damage against how strongly I want to do whatever it is. And thanks :)

Dea-chan -- As an Indian female from a very conservative (not orthodox) background, I hear more 'don'ts' than anything else and always have. It's reached the point where I no longer know which ones are sensible guidelines and which ones are plain dumb!