That's a quote. That was left on my Orkut profile by this person. (Sorry, you'll need an account to check him out.)
What could I say? I pointed out that people who wished to stay anonymous really have no place in a networking site. I know a whole bunch of people who use pseudonyms, but they usually identify themselves with a pic, at least in their albums. A networking site is for keeping in touch with your friends, or so I always believed. Maybe make new ones. But I suppose a whole bunch of clowns out there sincerely believe it's a place to find women willing to participate in cybersex. (You'll never convince me that they find women actually willing to sleep with them through such loser profiles.)
But seriously, what kind of person believes he has the right to tell me -- ME! -- what I should and should not be doing? He does not know me, will probably never be lucky enough to do so, and yet he appears out of the blue to tell me what my marriage vows do and do not allow me to do. Excuse me, I do have a husband, and he is perfectly capable of telling me what he does and does not wish me do.
I do object, very strongly, to moral policing. I believe myself to be a competent adult, able to take care of myself and my family and all our morals too. If I fail, I do not need you to point it out, because my parents actually taught me to recognise failure in myself. And they actually went one better than this Orkut chap's parents, I'd say, because they also taught me the humility to acknowledge that my way does not have to be everybody else's way too.
But then I read this article, courtesy Megha. I'm not playing devil's advocate here, nor am I upholding the police harassment these couples faced. I've had my share of similar trouble, as V would testify. (Once, seeing him kiss me goodbye in a taxi, a couple of concerned citizens felt impelled to yell at us that we were in Bengal, not Goa. My old geography teacher would be sorry to hear I'd got the two places mixed up, I think.)
Anyway, my point is this -- mostly a park is for very mixed company. Children come there, as do the elderly. Why then are most of the green spaces I know notorious as makeout points? I know very few courting couples have any privacy at home. I accept that sometimes you need to show some physical affection. But must they cross the line? Speaking as a mother, I really don't need you to educate my child about sex. Really. Hugging your boyfriend and fondling his privates are very different things. The one can be done just about anywhere, but I will object every time you do the other in front of my family or me.
And I also think my elders have earned the right to be able to spend a few quiet moments without having your hormonal urges thrust in their faces.
My point is very simple. Parks are for the public at large. There is nothing wrong in giving your girl a kiss or a hug. But making out in them is just pathetic. And so long as you continue to do so, you keep giving the moral police grounds to continue their harassment of innocent bystanders. That is not brave, simply stupid.